You can increase your orgasm odds and experience blissful moments in bed if you understand that having extraordinary orgasms is a learned technique. Research shows that the more you bring yourself to climax by any means, the better you become at it and the more your sex drive intensifies. Regular orgasms help you become aroused more easily, and enhance your sexual self-esteem and satisfaction. When it comes to orgasm, practice really does make perfect.
- Masturbation is the most reliable path to orgasm for both sexes. Most people can bring themselves to climax in about four minutes. Self-love helps you understand your body and its responses to sexual stimulation so that you can show and tell your lover what works for you. Although easier to have an orgasm on your own, climaxing with a lover is usually a far superior quality.
- Robust pelvic floor muscles (the ones you clamp together when you’re desperate for a pee) lead to bigger and more intense orgasms for men and women. You can start exercising these muscles by squeezing and releasing them 15 times, twice each day. Gradually increase the number of squeezes until you’re doing about a 100 twice a day. You can do them anywhere – while waiting in line at the post office, driving a car, reading a book, or when you get bored in a meeting at work. When you consciously use these muscles during intercourse, it transports you and your partner to orgasm heaven in no time flat.
- Studies show that people who exercise at least three times a week are not only more in tune with their bodies, they are also more responsive when it comes to sex. Vigorous physical exercise before your sex play gets you hot in every sense of the word. Exercise boosts blood flow which helps your body prepare for a sensational orgasm. Besides, the fitter you are, the more energy you have for a dynamic session between the sheets.
- It should come as no surprise to you that your diet has an impact on your libido. Anything containing vitamin B (vegetables, eggs, brown rice, nuts and fruit), as well as zinc (fish, liver, mushrooms, red meat and grains) enhance the efficiency of the nervous system and therefore lead to better orgasms.
- Physiologically speaking, many couples have sex at precisely the wrong time to be turned on orgasmically. Testosterone levels are highest when we first wake up and then gradually dwindle throughout the day. In the evening, people are more likely to be preoccupied and focused on the stresses of the day – not to mention too tired to even think about vigorous love-making. This means that the best orgasms typically happen during sex first thing in the morning.
- Changing your breathing pattern in the heat of passion can help increase an orgasm’s impact. For sensational sex, you need to breathe deeply through your mouth. The faster you breathe, the more excited you get. As you feel an orgasm approach, breathe even more strongly and consciously than usual to force each breath out from your diaphragm. This serves to heighten tension through-out your whole upper body for a head-to-toe burst of pure pleasure.
- At something like 2000 cycles per minute, a good vibrator is well worth the investment to send you both so high that you may need clearance to land. For a ‘no-hands’ alternative, try a vibrating penis ring or a wearable butterfly vibe.
- Tease yourself and your lover by prolonging the pleasure as long as you both can possibly hold out. By building up arousal in the genital area and then switching stimulation to a less sensitive part of the body for a few minutes before building up the excitement again, you can hover at the brink of orgasm for an exquisitely long time. When you finally let go, an extreme orgasm is practically guaranteed.
- Once you get over the taboo of anal play, the orgasmic quotient for both you and your partner is raised considerably. The anus is a superhot spot and jam-packed with sensitive nerves. Gently slide in a well-lubricated finger just as orgasm hits.
- Lastly, remember that the best orgasms start in the brain. Think that you’re enjoying yourself, and you will. When people deliberately raise their expectations about sex, their bodies become more responsive within 30 seconds. Erotic daydreams also play a huge role in keeping love juices flowing. Often, fantasies make all the difference between having a meltdown orgasm or none at all.
Dr. Mia Rose
