In this day and age, you have to know your way around a condom – not only for birth control, but for protection against sexually transmitted diseases. The most important way to maximize pleasure while still getting protection is to select the right condom, master the skill of sliding it on, and keep intensity high during the act.
Hot Tips:
- Stock up. One of the biggest problems with condoms is not having one on hand when you need it. Do yourself a favour and keep a supply within reach – in your purse (or wallet), nightstand, car – or anywhere an x-rated opportunity might present itself. Just be aware that heat (for example in a car) can make the latex fragile which increases the chances of a tear. Condoms can also easily get punctured by sharp objects that share their hiding place. Lastly, be sure to check a condom’s expiration date — chuck any that are past due and buy new ones.
- Pick the right condom. Not all condoms are created equal. Find one that meets your particular needs. Latex condoms are not only effective and durable, but proven to provide protection against pregnancy and STDs when used correctly. However, a small percentage of people are allergic to latex (think itching and burning sensations), so they prefer Polyurethane. Because the plastic sheath is thinner, they transmit heat a little better than latex, making sex feel more natural. Condoms made from animal membrane don’t protect against most sexually transmitted diseases, but they do prevent pregnancy. The minuscule openings in the membrane permit certain viruses such as HIV to pass through, but not sperm, which are bigger. So animal membrane is an alternative for committed couples in a monogamous relationship who were both tested around the same time and found to be STD-free.
- Variety is the spice of life. Condoms come in all shapes and sizes: ribbed, studded, warming and cooling… there is something for every possible taste. There are even condoms to make him last longer. Try a condom designed with a swirl or bulb at the end of it — it will have a word like’ twist,’ ‘pleasure’ or ‘spiral’ on the box. These models fit securely around the base of the shaft while creating more friction near the sensitive head of the penis. Plan a night in with a selection - you can have a great time experimenting and finding out which feels best.
- Size matters. The right fit entirely changes how a man experiences sex with a condom. If a condom is too tight, sensation is reduced, it takes longer to get it on (which can shrink his erection), and is more likely to break. Quick sizing test: If it can’t be rolled all the way down to the base of the penis, it’s not large enough. On the other hand, an oversize condom can slide off, and the extra material can be a blow to his ego. Make sure to experiment with different brands to find the perfect fit.
- Slide it on like a pro. Condoms may not be the most glamorous part of sex, but it doesn’t have to be awkward either. Slipping it on doesn’t have to spoil the mood. The faster it goes on, the less likely he is to lose his erection. During foreplay, carefully tear off the top of the condom package with your fingers (no scissors or nails!) Then squeeze the condom out like you would toothpaste. Place a few drops of lube inside the condom to increase sensation at the nerve-packed head of the penis. Place the opening over the head of the penis. Hold it there with one hand and lightly squeeze the tip of the condom to eliminate air bubbles (which can cause breakage), and also to leave space for semen. Turn the experience into a sexed-up hand job by squeezing the penis from shaft to tip to make sure it is fully erect. Up the fun factor by performing a few extra strokes. Use your other hand to unravel it all the way down to the rim of the condom and the base of the penis.
- Use your mouth. If you are adventurous enough, you can dab your lips with lube, then lightly suck a non-spermicidal disc or flavoured love glove into your mouth with the nipple end inward. Carefully wrap your lips over your teeth and put your mouth at the head of his member. By pushing your lips against the ring of the condom, you can slide it down his shaft, and unroll the rest with your hand.
- Make it fun. One way to have a lot of fun is to buy a vibrating ring. This is a plastic band that is joined to a buzzing nub. Place the band around the base of the condom, with the nub facing her clitoris, and enjoy an energetic ride!
- Don’t hang around. It’s important to pull out immediately after orgasm. Grasp the condom at the base of the penis to prevent any semen from leaking out. And remember, never recycle a condom! For protection against STDs you have to use a new condom properly and consistently with every single sexual act. Yes, that includes oral sex.
If purchasing condoms still makes you blush, remind yourself how super-responsible you are for taking charge of your sexual health. Then order them online!
Dr. Mia Rose
Having fun with Condoms
www.better-sex-4-women.com
